If you’ve been kissing the same way your whole life, it’s time that you learn some new kissing techniques. Some people are afraid to learn anything new, because if they’ve been doing something routinely for many years and they suddenly change tactics, they’re afraid that their partner might think they’re having an affair.
You should have a lot of tactics up your sleeve; but should only use many of them rarely. You don’t want to feel as if you’re the Swiss Army Knife of kissers. Kissing, just like making love, isn’t something that you should do as if you were following steps in some book.
First, with all kisses, the sensitivity that you use your lips has everything to do with your kiss. People might talk about ‘the way’ you do a kiss, giving instructions like “tilt your head to the side;” but generally they won’t stress that kissing is really a very intricate thing. The thing that makes it so intricate is… you’re kissing an individual, not a rock.
The hardest time will be the very first time that you kiss someone; however, that can make it the most exciting time as well. When trying new kissing techniques, utilize the randomness of the moment at all times; if they are tentative… be tentative right back for a time. Waver forward, and then retract a bit. Stay away for a time, watching their eyes deeply, reading what they’re body is saying. If there is a display of fear in their eyes, retreat a ways. Hover with your mouth as if it were a bird in flight that’s waiting for an opportune time to land. Imagine that you’re a very sexy bird, sleek and daring. Have your imaginings project through your eyes. Speak with your eyes; but don’t frighten.
New kissing techniques should include lots of teasing. Barely pout your lips as if you might kiss, then come a bit closer. Watch their eyes and see if there’s any discernible relaxation of the eye muscles. There should be a feeling like they’re melting if you’re doing it right. Gently place the tips of the fingers of your right hand so you can feel the small of their back. Move your head closer, brushing past their mouth with your slightly open mouth and breath just a touch of warm air without pursing your lips. Watch the result and see if anything is happening.
If they start to melt, appreciate it with a sly smile. Bite your lip and then come in closer until you almost touch. Raise your fingertips, gently sliding them along the small of their back, then push inwards just a touch as you let your lips touch for the first time. Then back your lips away a few millimeters and feel the heat of her lips on yours. She should feel yours as well. Being close, you can feel their heat… you can feel how much they want you and how much you want them.
Stick just the tip of your tongue out and barely touch their upper-lip with it, not tickling, but lightly stroking. Tickling is always a turn-off. Do things boldly, but not crudely. Pretend that her lips are her vagina. Lick between her slightly closed lips, sliding your tongue along, hoping that her lips will separate with desire. When they do, take the opportunity to lick a little deeper. Never ram your tongue inside.
Nip their upper-lip and pretend it’s a slick ice cream cone as both of your lips slide from their upper-lip. Keep the motions very smooth and slow. Never put too much pressure, but too little can be very pleasant until you’re almost not touching.
If you’re private parts are starting to be aroused, you might just lightly press against the person so they can sense it. Never grind, just barely brush them to remind them that it’s there. New kissing techniques mean, don’t kiss like you’ve ever kissed before; kiss like someone else. Do what you’d never dare do.
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